Crossroad moments look like

There are many types of Crossroad Moments. Each asks us to dig deep, get clear and choose from a deeper place of our truth. This is often the biggest part of the challenge. Firstly, knowing who and what we stand for, and then having the courage to buck against other's needs, expectations and rules of what we 'Should' do in your situation. 

Know yourself, then act is a timely saying. Not necessarily easy, but when we know ourselves, it is easier to make conscious choices based on our values and what we choose to believe and act with integrity.  

Explore the following and consider which one/s you have or are navigating through. Yes, working through more than one at a time and crossover events is possible. 

1. Lifestyle Choices

We all start 'living' the ways we are used to while growing up, but for most people, there comes a time when this is challenged.

We meet someone who lives and loves differently. We observe how others live interact and their life choices. We are challenged one way or the other, and we need to make adjustments to fit in, achieve the goal, or sacrifice parts of ourselves to keep the peace, get ahead, or fit in. At some stage, we are likely to challenge ourselves or we will be asked during the Crossroad Moment.....

What were your dreams and desires, and do you still want them?  What does success mean to you?
What do you see as normal, even if it isn't healthy or giving you what you love?
How do you choose to believe how you should be, must do, or have things to be accepted and considered 'a good person?

Reflecting on your Lifestyle Choices encompasses all the bases of life....
Who you choose to be.
How you choose to interact with the world and others and invest your time in creating a life-style.

How you choose to live your life and to experience life and living that is authentic, aligned and true to who you choose to be., based on your values, priorities and passions.

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2. Education, Career, Creating Money 

How we view money, responsibility, and direction often differs at different life stages—starting out vs starting a family, midlife and when things seem to 'fall apart'.

How to create ethical money and what that even means for yourself can be different to another. Do you follow the social norms, freelance, self-employed or just wing it? 

How do you navigate being laid off from work, the challenges of meeting financial and family commitments, redundancy, divorce, becoming a parent etc.?

Most play it safe and compromise their dreams or expectations.  This works for a while but can become a huge stressor over time.  At some stage, most will be asked to explore what is right for us, considering our commitments and personal needs. 

Money is often tied with personal identity,  our sense of value, self-esteem, worthiness, deservedness and being good enough beliefs. 

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3. Relationships with Self, Intimate, Family & friends/colleagues

One of our biggest challenges is being true to ourselves while considering others' needs, wants, and desires. 

Our upbringing creates a fairly clear blueprint of who we are, our place in the world, how we 'should' interact with it, and what others expect of us. 

Unfortunately, this is laden with generational, societal and unhealthy norms that undermine healthy self-esteem, identity and what we should do in every situation.  We are taught what is safe and acceptable behaviour, usually through threats, punishment and pain. These fear-based memories effectively keep us small, trapped and all too willing to conform. 

Relationships are the places to push our buttons and show us what we think, feel and believe, yet without the know-how, insight or courage to explore what is important to ourselves, let alone communicate it with others; we keep doing what we have always done.   

The risk of self-discovery and changing relationship dynamics towards healthy, secure relationships is so unfamiliar and often too scary that we will sell ourselves out to keep peace and stay a part of something.  At what cost, though? Is the price asked worth losing yourself along the way? For some, it is; for others, no. 

Significant crossroads moments are deciding whether to commit to a long-term relationship, marry, have children, divorce, or ask your partner to address relationship issues.

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4. Stepping up and into dreams

You have started to believe something different is possible, and you have started navigating your crossroads, yet the blocks, fears, limiting stories, fears and beliefs are raring their head, big time.   You are determined to work through them and win, but you are not sure what is holding you back and overcautious.

Knowing our fears are learnt and designed to protect against the unfamiliar and unknown, they are doing a great job, but now, you need to re-create, write and step into a new set of beliefs and supportive stories. Thankfully, it is possible and easy enough to do with the tools, commitment, courage, and curiosity to unlearn, learn and adapt to the truth and wholeness of your life purpose. 

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5. Health Scare and Wellness

A health scare or witnessing another's can be a pivotal crossroads moment. Realising that mortality is finite is often a wake-up call to consider what is important, why they are doing what they do and explore their soul's calling. Often asking, "How did I get here?" and  "Is this all there is to life?". 

The challenge is real, added to when loved ones add their concerns and dictate to you. The event could challenge your lifestyle, career, and relationships and lead you to listen to the deeper calling. 

Choosing life and doing what brings you peace, joy, fulfilment, and well-being often creates challenges. Making significant lifestyle changes and dealing with health issues can bring up hidden conflicts with others that have been simmering in the background for ages. 

What is your truth, and what is important to you from here are the key questions asked through this crossroads moment. 

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6. Life and family stages

Each life stage change creates unique challenges and questions.
Relationship dynamics, expectations, and emotional and physical demands stress everyone.

Parenting brings up unresolved family issues about parenting styles and triggers the hidden rules and expectations about child rearing, parenting, partnering, and providing are significant aspects needing navigating. Parenting asks us to parent our inner child into safer waters.

Moving into teenage years, empty nesting, and aging asks us to revisit and redefine ourselves and our parental, family and social relationships. Question if the norms for each stage are current and healthy or if we choose to do things differently. Are we wanting, willing and choosing to buck the systems from 30, 40 or 50+ years ago because the world is no longer what it was? And how do we even do this if we don't know what we stand for, what is important, what we value and choose to create more of in the future? 

Navigating new terrain is challenging, and the complexities can be massive depending on the parts at play and what is happening.  At the core, the premise is "Know Your Self," for when you know who and what you stand for, you can make conscious choices aligned with your values and purpose. 

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7. Personal Growth and Self-Improvement

Whatever the reason to start the journey of self-development and inner growth, the process is the same.  You have decided something needs to give or be different and decided it has to start with you. You have decided to step up and take responsibility for what you are co-creating in life.  After all, what is within us shows in our reality. If we don't like what we see, then our fears, limiting beliefs and lack of stories will likely play out. 

The first instance could be any of the other Crossroads moments, or you could have looked around and realised what you are doing and experiencing isn't what you want any more.  The originating 'reason' doesn't matter.

The focus is Who do you choose to become? What do you choose to create in the future? and, with this, What you need to heal, shift, transform and learn to become who you need to be to create a different future?

 Dig deeper, see who you are under the layers of BS (Belief Systems), and release your true potential from the place of abundance and love. 

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8. Ethical, Moral and Legal Dilemmas

Situations that challenge one's values, principles, priorities, and character create a portal for exploration, clarification and consciousness into one’s truth.

You may see or hear something that isn't legal, ethical, or fit your values. These situations demand we know where we draw the line. Your interpretation and management of the situation can be a significant crossroads moment.  
Again, our inherited diversity, segregation, inclusion, power, class, standards, norms, expectations and rules filter how we decide if something is good, bad, evil or saintly.

But, if our ideals are on the fringe or go against current social, moral, and legal standards, when others or situations challenge us, we will asked to re-consider or be forced to address the mismatch in our beliefs and how we fit in and respond.

The more targeted, involved in, role and responsibilities within the situation, or triggered by the situation, the deeper the issues will likely be.

The core issues can be singular or crossover between relationships, career, social, political and personal identity, and status challenges can be profound crossroads.